Hey there, Magic Maker!
Ever been caught in one of those moments?
You know the ones, your Little is teetering on the edge of a meltdown, and you’re scrambling through your brain like a rolodex of calming tools, hoping something—anything!—will land.
Deep breaths. You’re not alone.
We created this list of 4 simple phrases that do more than just sound nice. These phrases validate, connect, and co-regulate. Because calming a child isn’t about “fixing the feeling”, it’s about riding the waves together.
Let’s break them down (and share the magic behind why they work!).
1. “You can tell me anything that's bothering you. I'm right here to listen, always.”
Why it works:
This one is all about emotional safety. When kids feel seen and heard (without judgment), they’re more likely to express what's going on instead of bottling it up. You're signaling: I'm your safe place, no matter what.
2. “Feelings are like big waves in the ocean; they come, but they also go. You are strong enough to ride this feeling.”
Why it works:
Metaphors help Littles understand abstract emotions. This phrase offers reassurance that the feeling isn’t forever, and that they have the inner strength to handle it. You’re building resilience, one wave at a time.
3. “Worries can feel big and tricky, like a puzzle, but remember, you're not alone. We'll work through this together.”
Why it works:
Anxious brains need co-regulation, not just comfort. When you acknowledge the bigness of their worry and offer to puzzle it out together, you’re showing your child that scary things shrink when shared.
4. “How about we find a quiet, cozy spot? We can relax there until you feel a bit better.”
Why it works:
Environment matters. This gives Littles a gentle way out of overwhelm without shame. You’re inviting, not forcing, a transition into calm. That autonomy? It’s huge for nervous systems.
A Quick Reminder…
These phrases aren’t scripts to fix feelings, they’re invitations to connect. They’re moments of magic that say:
“You’re not too much. You’re not broken. You’re allowed to feel.”
And yes, even when the feelings are big (and the shoes feel wrong, the toy broke, or the day just unraveled), you’ve got this.
We see you doing the hard, heart-filled work of raising and teaching neurodiverse Littles. And we’re here to sprinkle a little more calm into your toolkit.
Want more calming strategies, printable tools, and affirming support? Tune in to our podcast and visit our shop to explore resources created just for you.
Let’s make space for connection, one phrase at a time.
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